Why is it when most couples when they break up they stop even being friends?

why is it when most people spilt from there partner they (not all of couples) never become friends afterwards they end up hating one another.


and cant be friends


so why is thisWhy is it when most couples when they break up they stop even being friends?
I think it's because the end of the relationship is also the end of a dream they had of finding the ';right'; one and being together forever. Seeing each other again is a reminder of a perceived failure.





Plus, almost no break-up is truly amicable, equal on both sides. It's almost always one person's idea to end it. That person hates being the ';heavy'; who ended things, while the other person hates being dumped.





Breaking up confronts us with a vision of ourselves as some combination of unwanted/unsuccessful) that's hard to welcome. Plus, many people struggle along in relationships that aren't working for quite a while, and the more we stay in a relationship, the more invested we are in it, so the more painful its end can be.Why is it when most couples when they break up they stop even being friends?
I believe that it depends on how long the couple where married. I am friends with my X. We are better friends than a couple. We where married 25 years. Have 3 adult children. We respected each other and never curse or talked bad about the other. I guess we are lucky that we are still friends. I remarried , he has not..
because you cannot stand to be around one another.


it will be weird if one person is in a relatioship and the other is not
Because if they could get along, they would still be together.
Moving on means letting go...and the past is the past! It is not necessary to hate the person, but to let them go and move forward is the healthiest way.
dont know but it might be because some relationships have been bad ones
I think it depends on the relationship and breakup. For me, I try to keep being friends if the situation allows.
it's usually awkward and stirs up a lot of feelings and complicates the relationship once they're not together anymore.





also, you tend to think about the past and end up not knowing how to feel.





another reason is to get over someone, you can't spend time with them, so once you reach the point of getting over them, you have adapted to not speaking to them anymore, and just move on
because its strange and awkward.
That’s not true in all cases. My best friend’s other best friend is her ex-husband. I think that there is a point in relationships where you realize that its just not going to work. If you break up at that point, you can kind of end things politely and be friends after. But most couples don’t. They stick it out until it goes from “yeah he isn’t the one” to “I absolutely hate your disgusting face.” Frankly, I wouldn’t be friends with someone who says that to me.
too much history
Because usually the break up is bad and they wind up with bitter feelings. If it wasn't so bad, why break up in the first place?
Just an awkward situation.


You could probably maintain a friendship if the split was on mutual terms with just not working out.. but still got along.. one of those ';Just not the one'; things.





And hate is usually only in the beginning.


Sometimes with certain circumstances people are forced to get along (ie: kids) so your thought has it's exceptions.
ive ended a few where we couldnt be friends for the fact they were abusive mentally and physically. i cant be friends with a person like that. but for the most part im still very good friends with my exs
I dont know why that happens as frequently as it does. I always try to stay friends with my old girlfriends. It works out pretty well actually. And its really not uncommon that I (hook up) with again after some time goes by.