Sure, they may be at different stages in their lives, but isn't everyone? Why does age have to be the defining factor?Why does society judge age differences between couples?
I was 19, dated a 27 year old for a year. When it started I was 18 and he was 26. And everything went smoothly for us.Why does society judge age differences between couples?
It isn't THE defining factor, but it is a very relevant one.
Relationships are based on mutual interests, mutual beliefs, mutual goals, and mutual needs.
Frankly, the younger you are, the greater the distance in interests, beliefs, goals and needs.
Your age separation is a bit on the large side for your age. It would be very inappropriate if you were 15 and he was 23. It becomes less inappropriate if you were 23 and he was 31.
So society isn't wrong for judging people's age differences with skepticism. It is a leading indicator to the health of a relationship. Obviously it isn't the only criteria, but it is a justifiable one.
I'm not terribly surprised that people look at the two of you as a bit strange. But if you're committed to the relationship, it'll lessen over time.
I'm trying to figure out the psychology behind why age is such a big deal, too. I guess what it boils down to is that people think nowadays that because young women marry 40 year old men in other countries and rape them or whatever, if you date someone about 8 years older, you'll get the backhand because he's older. That's the way it was back then in the 50's, 60's too. THe older man always had power over the younger woman, and nowadays people think of it as bad and suppose that the woman is being driven into her life by someone with more life experience.
There's nothing wrong with an 18 and a 26 year old, what matters is how he treats you and that he doesn't have power over you.
Totally agreeing with your little statement - everyone is at different stages in their lives, so there's an advantage to dating someone who's something like 8 years older. They know what you've gone through and can get you through difficult things about the phases you're going through.
Although age and maturity aren't a definite correlation, they typically aren't too far off for most people (on average).
So with a large age gap chances are higher that there will be large gaps in maturity, life experience, common interests, where they are in life, etc.
That's just how it is. On average someone who has been alive more calendar years has a higher chance of being more mature and having had more life experiences than someone who has been alive fewer years (generally speaking). The larger the gap, you may be talking generational gaps in interests as well. Like music....someone in their 40s is more likely to dig 70s and 80s music (rock and rock types) where someone in their 20s is more likely to like present-day music which includes a lot of hip-hop and R%26amp;B.
Not saying large gap relationships can't or don't work, but they tend to fair better when both people are older (in their late 20s and up) rather than between someone barely an adult and someone who has been walking that path for a while.
personally i prefer older men. so i think there is nothing wrong with age difference. as long as there is love in the relationship it shouldn't matter and you shouldn't care about what people say. there is a rule of thumb though:
half your age plus seven is the youngest you should date. This rule has been variously attributed to the French, and Muslims, and Jewish matchmakers; but who cares about it's origins, it works with people that care and judge. or ';socially acceptable';
The full version states: ';if you halve your years then add seven, you'll have the youngest decent age for a partner; if you double your years then subtract seven, you'll have the oldest decent age for a partner';.
to me it doesn't matter just have fun and love and be loved :)
no.
my parents are 9 years apart.
my friends parents are 9 years apart.
some people may judge, but ignore it.
True love is not limited by age. (well, make exceptions to those who arent mature enough to know what true love is...)
Maturity is the key factor. theres a difference between a 14 yr old going out with a 24 yr old (10 yr diff) and a 30 yr old going out with a 40 yr old (10 yr diff). one is wrong one isnt. not because of 10 years difference, but because of maturity.
I greatly disagree with 'Thumbs Up'.
I am an eighteen year old female who is dating a twenty-five year old man and I must say, our relationship is stronger than any relationship I've had with someone in my own age group.
An older man suits my life better than a younger man for maturity reasons. From my experience, young men are seeking 'party girls' (which I'm definitely not). While men in their twenties are seek potential long term relationships.
Age, to me, isn't something that defines a person. And I surely would not rule anyone out because society claims they're too old to date me.
cause we all conformed to one style of living that was developed in the early stages of humanity where prudes roamed the streets and women couldnt show their ankles now teenage girls dress like whores (dont deny this either) to get mens attention and im gonna be honest they grab my attention but thus the basis of why older guys are going out with younger women cause they are young have low self esteem and they find them as an easy target to have sex with....stop me when i lie
No... Everyone is not always at different stages in their lives.
Age is a defining factor because of maturity. An 18-year-old doesn't have all of it yet... A 26-year-old does.
I would hardly call a 26 year old mature as compared to an 18 year old, I mean they're both essentially still kids.
age does not matter its just a number when it comes to love
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