Just wondering what the stats are. Im a Pisces and no one else intrigues me like the aquarian but even though Im way ahead of them in many ways im still too clingy. What to do?Are there any Pisces and Aquarius couples out there?
Ive dated one before but he has cats and smokes....we are alot better with Taurus, Aries, Cancer, Scorpio, and possibly another Pisces or Leo...we are flirts and Tauruses and firesigns know how to flirt like we do and love sex too.. and they can talk!!Are there any Pisces and Aquarius couples out there?
I'm a Pisces but I am not coupled w/ anyone.
as a matter of fact, i'm talkin to an Aquarius too!! so far, no problems. i've gotten along with most other Aquarians, so have no worries.
Sounds good to me....try this...http://www.astro.com %26amp; http://www.chaosastrology.com and only go for the free readings and the PDF wheel! The latter I mentioned is the better link as it is a full length reading for FREE!!!!!
honey im pisces and hes aquarian. the chemistry is awesom but hes also aloof and selfish. he has an eye for pretty girls. he loves the mystery and is intrigued by females that crosses his path. his ego is way too big and hes a liar. and this is hell on me you know how we pisces gals are. once he knows everything there is to know about you his interest will wane. this union will be painful and alota hard work. you are better of with taurus or scorpio, all the best mwah
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Why dont my parents accept interracial couples?
I am a white female and I date all colors they dont want me to date black guys cuz they hit girls and only use gurlz they say. but my ex boyfriend is black and the most loving kind person i ever met and I cryed cuz my parent would neva wnt 2 meet him and just called him bad black names.I dont kno what 2 do!!!!!!help me please!I love him and my parents sed if i stay w him they will dis own me and my family. they call me a ***** lova and no white guy will ever want me now.cuz i was with a black guy.they sed only white trash and ugly girls date blacks.Why dont my parents accept interracial couples?
Honey you obviously know your parents and a lot of people are racial but that does NOT make it okay that's why you should be very happy to know that you are your own person and make your own decision. Telling a girl she's less than a man is sexism, so is telling a black guy he's less than a white man is racism. It should NEVER be allowed but people do it all the time. Just be the one to find happiness NO MATTER what skin colour, and if people want to stereotype you then that's only a real sad problem with them! not you!
If your ex made you happy then be happy, coz finding an honest man is hard in itself.. regardless of skin tone!
And as for your parents... some folks never change (even mine) give them time but don't let them teach you that being racist is ok! Coz it never is!Why dont my parents accept interracial couples?
omg, you poor thing!!
well I guess this proves that parent's aren't always right and they don't always do / know the right things...!
As long as they are not really throwing you out of the house, go right ahead and date any ';color'; you want.
Also try to talk with your parents in a reasonable fashion. Tell them, you are Not Ugly and you are Not White Trash (obviously) so duH, maybe you are with the guy because he is a gentleman, intelligent, interesting etc. etc. And that there are loads of white guys who ';hit girls and only use them for u-know-what'; etc.
Just remember, you can't change your parents completely, after all they are fixed in their time-warp ways - but you should never stop trying!! If someone is say niggalova, then it means they are not thinking too deeply on the subject - that's Problem # 1 !!!
If you're parents feel this way, there is a good reason for it. You're too young to know if you love this guy and want to be with him forever. You're YOUNG and don't know everything there is to know about life, and you never will for that matter, but you dont know enough. He may be a nice guy but there is a reason your parents dont want you with him. The only white girls I've ever seen dating black guys are trashy, fat, or both. If you date a black guy, no white guy will ever want to date you again, I promise you this. By fiance would have never gave me the time of day if I had ever been with a black guy and vice versa.
im sorry that u r in such a problem but heres the deal ur parents are small minded and r set in there ways wat u need to think about is if u love ur bf so much that u would leave your family for him then if u can u need to tell your family and your boyfriend how u r feeling if u chose me for your best answer i would like to no how u responed to this
When you become a big girl, and pay your way through life, away from mommy and daddy, date whoever you want.
Why don't you just go and ask them?
lol
At least you would probably know the real reason why, instead of our opinions. Even if you don't like what you hear, at least you could get an honest answer to your question.
Good luck!
: )
They're Old School!
If the day in age that we are in now. It was probably their upbringing too. Someone i know likes black guys and her parents have went to the extent of telling her that in the bible it's a sin to date outside your race. God sees no different. He only see equal. Keep doin' what you are doin' if it makes you happy. Any race can hit and beat their women. I would much rather my child to be with a black guy that is going to treat her like gold and see her happy rather than a white man that is going to beat her and see her miserable.
If you're an adult, do what you want. Your parents are in the wrong. You need to take each individual for who he is, not judge by color.
You need to realize that your parents aren't the only ones who will look at you differently if you are with a black guy, so you may want to consider what your life will be like in public.
But if that doesn't bother you, you should live your own life, once you are out of the house and on your own. As long as you live in your parents' house and they pay your way, you have to abide by their rules.
I doubt if any white guy worth having would refuse you, based on who you've dated before.
Also, believe me when I say, it is not only people living in the South who have attitudes about interracial relationships. People up north just like to pretend they don't have prejudices. Obviously they do, or they would not be making assumptions that your parents are from the South! I lived up north for several years, and got a lot of snide remarks when people found out I'm from the South. They never realized right off, since I don't have an accent. Jerks abound in every part of the country (although I still believe most people are basically nice).
You're parents are ignorant. If they can't see you happy, then they only think of themselves. I've been in an interracial relationship for 4.5 years now. At first, his white mom didn't like it because she didn't want her son to be a victim of racism. But because she saw how happy he was, she allowed it and now is my closest friend. Black, white, red, green, we are all the same people. People should stop hating.
It is very difficult for the older generation to accept interracial couples. That is not how they were brought up. The younger generation can accept it better because they have more of an open mind. I really don't know the answer. You have to make up your mind as to what you want more. Before you decide please take a long time to think about it. They were harsh on you, but remember they only want what they think is best. Even though you don't agree. Good luck.
i feel your pain as i am in this situation...mine is not black he is arab but i have dated ppl from many different races, its not fair for people to be so narrow minded especially your parents they should see that he was a caring loving guy no matter what and all the names and things that said seem horrible to me!
but praise to you because you accept people and their differences....i chose to stay with my man and now i barely talk to my parents that may sound rude on my part but thats how i dealt with it, they need to accept him someday and who knows if they will but I am so happy! you cant always please your parents...your gonna wear the wrong clothes and date the wrong guys and buy the wrong car, house, etc. dont let them stand in the way of your true happiness! my parents basically disowned me..you should talk to him and tell him this and maybe he can help you out.
im sorry your going through this i know it causes pain for everyone but nothing can stand in the way of true love! if u really wanna talk u can contact me i would love to help more.
parents know whats best for their children, don't argue with them. they come from a different generation. they must be a good southern family with southern roots.
white trash and ugly girls don't date black guys. trust me i've dated a black guy. they want the same things that a white guy wants. and if your parents have a problem with it and if you love him it shouldn't matter. choose who means the most to you. and not all black guys treat girls bad. they are human too so they shouldn't be treated like that.
I think your parents need to grow up and except all gods children.they maybe never change but i would not stop going out with him just because your parents do not like black people.times has changed we don't see people for there color but for who they are.tell your parents that it is time to change its 2006.
My ex-wife was a black woman and i loved her very much, if you know this is the guy for you with all of your heart and soul then stick with him, but make sure as with any guy that he is the right one for you. It doesn't matter what color he is though, if you love him that's all that matters.
Honey you obviously know your parents and a lot of people are racial but that does NOT make it okay that's why you should be very happy to know that you are your own person and make your own decision. Telling a girl she's less than a man is sexism, so is telling a black guy he's less than a white man is racism. It should NEVER be allowed but people do it all the time. Just be the one to find happiness NO MATTER what skin colour, and if people want to stereotype you then that's only a real sad problem with them! not you!
If your ex made you happy then be happy, coz finding an honest man is hard in itself.. regardless of skin tone!
And as for your parents... some folks never change (even mine) give them time but don't let them teach you that being racist is ok! Coz it never is!Why dont my parents accept interracial couples?
omg, you poor thing!!
well I guess this proves that parent's aren't always right and they don't always do / know the right things...!
As long as they are not really throwing you out of the house, go right ahead and date any ';color'; you want.
Also try to talk with your parents in a reasonable fashion. Tell them, you are Not Ugly and you are Not White Trash (obviously) so duH, maybe you are with the guy because he is a gentleman, intelligent, interesting etc. etc. And that there are loads of white guys who ';hit girls and only use them for u-know-what'; etc.
Just remember, you can't change your parents completely, after all they are fixed in their time-warp ways - but you should never stop trying!! If someone is say niggalova, then it means they are not thinking too deeply on the subject - that's Problem # 1 !!!
If you're parents feel this way, there is a good reason for it. You're too young to know if you love this guy and want to be with him forever. You're YOUNG and don't know everything there is to know about life, and you never will for that matter, but you dont know enough. He may be a nice guy but there is a reason your parents dont want you with him. The only white girls I've ever seen dating black guys are trashy, fat, or both. If you date a black guy, no white guy will ever want to date you again, I promise you this. By fiance would have never gave me the time of day if I had ever been with a black guy and vice versa.
im sorry that u r in such a problem but heres the deal ur parents are small minded and r set in there ways wat u need to think about is if u love ur bf so much that u would leave your family for him then if u can u need to tell your family and your boyfriend how u r feeling if u chose me for your best answer i would like to no how u responed to this
When you become a big girl, and pay your way through life, away from mommy and daddy, date whoever you want.
Why don't you just go and ask them?
lol
At least you would probably know the real reason why, instead of our opinions. Even if you don't like what you hear, at least you could get an honest answer to your question.
Good luck!
: )
They're Old School!
If the day in age that we are in now. It was probably their upbringing too. Someone i know likes black guys and her parents have went to the extent of telling her that in the bible it's a sin to date outside your race. God sees no different. He only see equal. Keep doin' what you are doin' if it makes you happy. Any race can hit and beat their women. I would much rather my child to be with a black guy that is going to treat her like gold and see her happy rather than a white man that is going to beat her and see her miserable.
If you're an adult, do what you want. Your parents are in the wrong. You need to take each individual for who he is, not judge by color.
You need to realize that your parents aren't the only ones who will look at you differently if you are with a black guy, so you may want to consider what your life will be like in public.
But if that doesn't bother you, you should live your own life, once you are out of the house and on your own. As long as you live in your parents' house and they pay your way, you have to abide by their rules.
I doubt if any white guy worth having would refuse you, based on who you've dated before.
Also, believe me when I say, it is not only people living in the South who have attitudes about interracial relationships. People up north just like to pretend they don't have prejudices. Obviously they do, or they would not be making assumptions that your parents are from the South! I lived up north for several years, and got a lot of snide remarks when people found out I'm from the South. They never realized right off, since I don't have an accent. Jerks abound in every part of the country (although I still believe most people are basically nice).
You're parents are ignorant. If they can't see you happy, then they only think of themselves. I've been in an interracial relationship for 4.5 years now. At first, his white mom didn't like it because she didn't want her son to be a victim of racism. But because she saw how happy he was, she allowed it and now is my closest friend. Black, white, red, green, we are all the same people. People should stop hating.
It is very difficult for the older generation to accept interracial couples. That is not how they were brought up. The younger generation can accept it better because they have more of an open mind. I really don't know the answer. You have to make up your mind as to what you want more. Before you decide please take a long time to think about it. They were harsh on you, but remember they only want what they think is best. Even though you don't agree. Good luck.
i feel your pain as i am in this situation...mine is not black he is arab but i have dated ppl from many different races, its not fair for people to be so narrow minded especially your parents they should see that he was a caring loving guy no matter what and all the names and things that said seem horrible to me!
but praise to you because you accept people and their differences....i chose to stay with my man and now i barely talk to my parents that may sound rude on my part but thats how i dealt with it, they need to accept him someday and who knows if they will but I am so happy! you cant always please your parents...your gonna wear the wrong clothes and date the wrong guys and buy the wrong car, house, etc. dont let them stand in the way of your true happiness! my parents basically disowned me..you should talk to him and tell him this and maybe he can help you out.
im sorry your going through this i know it causes pain for everyone but nothing can stand in the way of true love! if u really wanna talk u can contact me i would love to help more.
parents know whats best for their children, don't argue with them. they come from a different generation. they must be a good southern family with southern roots.
white trash and ugly girls don't date black guys. trust me i've dated a black guy. they want the same things that a white guy wants. and if your parents have a problem with it and if you love him it shouldn't matter. choose who means the most to you. and not all black guys treat girls bad. they are human too so they shouldn't be treated like that.
I think your parents need to grow up and except all gods children.they maybe never change but i would not stop going out with him just because your parents do not like black people.times has changed we don't see people for there color but for who they are.tell your parents that it is time to change its 2006.
My ex-wife was a black woman and i loved her very much, if you know this is the guy for you with all of your heart and soul then stick with him, but make sure as with any guy that he is the right one for you. It doesn't matter what color he is though, if you love him that's all that matters.
What are good recipes for young couples (16-17)?
we dont want nothing nasty like foreplay pie or nothing something simple because we can't cook that well. Nothing with alfredo or pasta please.What are good recipes for young couples (16-17)?
rice is so easy you would not believe it
pour 1 can chicken , beef or veggie broth in a pot then add 1/2 of the can filled with long grain rice(not minute or instant) bring just to boil on high then simmer tightly covered for twenty min on low heat dont peek or you'll end up with gummy rice
also try one can cream of whatever you like soup in a mixing bowl
add same can filled with milk and then fill it with rice(uncooked) then stir. add 1teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder and cooked ham, chicken, turkey, pork chops what ever I use leftovers from take away or deli meats also. dump into baking dish cover with foil wrap bake in oven 325 degree for 35 min uncover cook about 5-10 min more until browned slightly great tasting and cheap also.
thought of something else you know those packages of lipton rice and sauce or noodles and sauce? Add some ground beef browned and drained or any cooked meat and some veggies viola casseroleWhat are good recipes for young couples (16-17)?
Why not try some stir frys you can use any meat you like and any vegetables you like, just slice your meat and vegies into similar sizes and have everything beside you, then heat up a pan until very hot. First stir fry meat in pan in small batches, until browned, then remove to bowl, then do same with vegies, now put meat back in to heat up and add the sauce of your choice, e.g. soy sauce, teriyaki sauce, or satay sauce. Just remember to have pan very hot and stir constantly. Good luck guys
rice is so easy you would not believe it
pour 1 can chicken , beef or veggie broth in a pot then add 1/2 of the can filled with long grain rice(not minute or instant) bring just to boil on high then simmer tightly covered for twenty min on low heat dont peek or you'll end up with gummy rice
also try one can cream of whatever you like soup in a mixing bowl
add same can filled with milk and then fill it with rice(uncooked) then stir. add 1teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder and cooked ham, chicken, turkey, pork chops what ever I use leftovers from take away or deli meats also. dump into baking dish cover with foil wrap bake in oven 325 degree for 35 min uncover cook about 5-10 min more until browned slightly great tasting and cheap also.
thought of something else you know those packages of lipton rice and sauce or noodles and sauce? Add some ground beef browned and drained or any cooked meat and some veggies viola casseroleWhat are good recipes for young couples (16-17)?
Why not try some stir frys you can use any meat you like and any vegetables you like, just slice your meat and vegies into similar sizes and have everything beside you, then heat up a pan until very hot. First stir fry meat in pan in small batches, until browned, then remove to bowl, then do same with vegies, now put meat back in to heat up and add the sauce of your choice, e.g. soy sauce, teriyaki sauce, or satay sauce. Just remember to have pan very hot and stir constantly. Good luck guys
In wich part of nyc is more common to see black women/white men couples ?
i promise that is the last really thx a lotIn wich part of nyc is more common to see black women/white men couples ?
Manhattan near Times SquareIn wich part of nyc is more common to see black women/white men couples ?
It's easier to say where you won't see them.
You won't see them on Governor's Island during the week.
You won't see them on Hoffman Island.
I see these types of couples in manhattan and brooklyn the most.
I dont think there is one spot that its any more common then another.
Just manhattan in general..
Manhattan near Times SquareIn wich part of nyc is more common to see black women/white men couples ?
It's easier to say where you won't see them.
You won't see them on Governor's Island during the week.
You won't see them on Hoffman Island.
I see these types of couples in manhattan and brooklyn the most.
I dont think there is one spot that its any more common then another.
Just manhattan in general..
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Where can we meet with other couples socially?
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Do you get jealous of other couples?
Like you see someone's boyfriend or girlfriend and you think 'wow they're hot'
also, do you ever think ';ew, the person their dating is ugly';Do you get jealous of other couples?
I get jealous when i look in the mirrorDo you get jealous of other couples?
twas a joke lol
haha..im single so i dont get jealous of couples. tho sometimes if a girl is really pretty i do think to myself she cld get someone hotter. but then u have to remember its not about looks lol and cant help who ur heart falls for.
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jealously isn't going to get me anywhere
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yeah.......i do wen i see sum HANDSOME GUY with a PRETTY GAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
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also, do you ever think ';ew, the person their dating is ugly';Do you get jealous of other couples?
I get jealous when i look in the mirrorDo you get jealous of other couples?
twas a joke lol
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haha..im single so i dont get jealous of couples. tho sometimes if a girl is really pretty i do think to myself she cld get someone hotter. but then u have to remember its not about looks lol and cant help who ur heart falls for.
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jealously isn't going to get me anywhere
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yeah.......i do wen i see sum HANDSOME GUY with a PRETTY GAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Why do you think so many couples who get married end up divorced?
I think its becasue when people go out dating they are not themselves because they are constanly trying to impress their dates. So when they get married they finally act like themselves and are dissatisfied with how their lover really is. What do you think?Why do you think so many couples who get married end up divorced?
The #1 cause for divorce today is financial stress within the relationship. Men and women never get on the same page about the finances and get deeply into debt. Dave Ramsey has it going on.Why do you think so many couples who get married end up divorced?
i think so many of them rush into it. take your time get to know the person
Maybe it's because when you are married, you take your partner's love for granted and stop showing how much you love them and caring about your appearance. I think it's also harder to be with one person all the time than once in a while. Sometimes, after a day of hard work, people have less patience and can't avoid getting angry very easily. And when one person is in a bad mood, the other doesn't usually try to change it. Instead, they complain... Financial problems are also one of the reasons why people stop getting along. I think people should reflect about all this and try to be less selfish. Being understanding can solve lots of problems and keep love alive.
I think it is because divorce has became so easy. Marriage is not easy and takes some work. Instead of trying to work problems out it is just easier for some people to cut their losses and move on. Years ago divorce was only option in extreme circumstances, now anybody who has an ';unreconcilable difference'; can get divorced.
Well, I can tell you that the Christian divorce rate is as high as the secular (worldly) divorce rate.
So, because they seem to have little in commom, what would be the common link that would create this.
Many good churches with good people in them have a real problem and they share it with the world.
When two people get married, the world tears them apart, tells them they are individuals and should live their own lives, etc.
The church tells them that their marriage is sacred, and to keep it holy, and that they are now one flesh. But at the same time, the church will have the mens groups, and the ladies groups, and the mens retreats and the ladies retreats, mens only meetings, ladies only meetings. Get my point? How can you say someone is one flesh , and then your actions are to separate them whenever possible?
So the Church and the world have one major thing in commom that would keep their divorce rates equal to one another. They both divide the one flesh.
i like your answer..i also think that people today get married for the wrong reasons...lust not love...people also don't realize that over time people do change...so it's either both grow together ...or the other person will grow apart from the other one and find someone similar to them
You are right. I think it is mainly because they are not ready to get married when they do. Statistically, people are getting married WAY older than they used to when the baby boomers were around. We should see that divorce rate decline as people are now waiting till they are older to settle down.
Many differant reasons,
maybe jumping into it too soon and not ready.
Maybe being unfaithful.
maybe abuse.
The advent of the no-fault divorce.
People don't take it seriously. They jump in without thinking, and realizing that it isn't just about puppy love, and it requires work.
one big reason is because ppl mostly think that they are in love when in actiality they are just in love with the idea of a perfect, all-american life of wife, husband, 2 kids, a dog and the white picket fence.
unnatural act
People can take the sanity of spending maybe a few hours with each other but then when it comes down to maybe having to spend 9-17 hours with them becomes unbearable.
I think it is a lot more complicated than that. You would be right if people just jumped into marriage after a short period of dating. However, I can't see people being able to pretend they are someone else for a year or more. I think a lot of what happens is related to expectations and responsibilities. Life is hard enough but when you get married you are suddenly faced with a whole new set of responsibilities and expectations in addition to what already existed. A lot of people are just not prepared to deal with this. They struggle for a couple of years but never are really able to get a handle on things and it all just falls apart. I also think it is partially related to the fact that we have become more of a self focused culture. As a society now days we are more focused on what is good for us and what are we getting and what do we want. When you get married you have to change that what is in it for me to we and that isn't how we are taught to see life now days.
you are right, I got married 4 years ago my divorce was final in january..I don't beleive in marriage. I would not do it again
i have exactly the same thoughts as urs.. good view brother.. :) i totally agree with u
They are getting married for the wrong reasons..Some just want the feeling, experience of being married, some rush into something they are not ready for and dont take the time to get to know their partner before getting married....I was married for the wrong reasons and now I wont settle for anything less ..I want the whole Soul mate, partnership, love, passion, and being down for my man completely and solidly..no exceptions...
because they married 2 soon
They are excited by the idea of a wedding and the attention it brings and aren't aware of how much work goes into a marriage.
coz ppl get into a relation way to fast then marry way 2 fast and then diverce way to fast
get it
I think is what you say and more. A lot married people got married at a young age. Some in their teens. They don't know what a serious relationship is. Also, people get married out of ';love'; instead of understanding and compromising and learning that their partner is the one.
i think that marriage is a used up idea that doesn't fit anymore to our society's behavior.how can anyone expect to be faithful for all his life for example.its nonsense.and people are getting divorced mostly because of this.the man or woman were unfaithful and there it all ends.
I think you are partly right, and also that people marry sooner than they used to. They don't take time to really get to know each other, and to discuss all the really big issues.
But I also think that people see divorce much more as an option than people used to. Marriage vows don't seem to have the same meaning they once did. We are living in a throw-away society, and people treat marriage like anything else they feel they no longer need, so out it goes.
Some aren't willing to put the time and effort into working on relationships. Some are selfish in the decision to divorce and don't stop to think how it will affect children.
Some are affected by problems that don't seem to have been as rampant in our society in the past--drug addiction and violence being two of those issues. Those are problems that sometimes divorce is the only sane answer to.
Marriage is not easy, in fact a successful marriage requires a lot of work, from both parties. I think a lot of people don't realize that. Don't forget how many have not had good role models for marriage, either.
Because there are somethings that couples do not talk about before getting married to truly find out if they are compatable
1. Finacial Stability: One side of the relationship usually takes up the bill. Whick always create aggrevation on both sides.
2. Sex: One may want it all the time and the other may want it once in a while.
3. Relegion: One may be relegious the other may not be.
I could go one here but I don't want to right an essay.
It's true. Me and my fiance have a moto we live by. Act how you would if you were married while dating. Then there are no surprises when they say '; I do';
It depends, I know people that been dating for years, they get married and after a few months, the get divorced, then I know other couples (including my hubby %26amp; me) that we got married very soon after dating, and stay married for ever.
I think its because you still have something new to learning from your partner, but if you get married after so many years dating or even living together, what鈥檚 there to learn
becuase marriage causes laziness. your married why have to look your best or turn them out or take them out or show them a good time they will be there anyway (RIGHT) Wrong...
Because at least one of them is very weak and begins to blame all the natural problems of life on the spouse.
I THINK THEY BECOME TIRED OF THEIR SPOUSE.YOU NEED SPICE AND REAL LOVE TO STAY TOGETHER.
Many couples live together, marry, and then divorce so I think there's more to it. In my opinion, it's a lack understanding that a good marriage takes a lot of work. No matter how much you love each other, there will be times when you disagree. You've got to work things out together with the idea that are going to stay together no matter what and must find a solution to the problem that does not destroy your commitment to the marriage and each other. Do not marry with the idea that if it doesn't work out you can always divorce. That type of relationship, lacking commitment, is doomed to failure.
Thats a big part of it. But some people just want to be married and dont focus on the partner they have if its really the right one.
I mean after you get a couple red flags in the relationship you need to step back and take a look at things dont ever jump into a marriage without dating for a while and try living togeather a few months. Living togeather will really tell you what a person is like.
Because they are not willing to work through the tough times. It is easier to get a divorce, but it is harder to work through the bad times. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and life gets good again. Married 13 years, and happy. http://profiles.yahoo.com/gorillamyke
The #1 cause for divorce today is financial stress within the relationship. Men and women never get on the same page about the finances and get deeply into debt. Dave Ramsey has it going on.Why do you think so many couples who get married end up divorced?
i think so many of them rush into it. take your time get to know the person
Maybe it's because when you are married, you take your partner's love for granted and stop showing how much you love them and caring about your appearance. I think it's also harder to be with one person all the time than once in a while. Sometimes, after a day of hard work, people have less patience and can't avoid getting angry very easily. And when one person is in a bad mood, the other doesn't usually try to change it. Instead, they complain... Financial problems are also one of the reasons why people stop getting along. I think people should reflect about all this and try to be less selfish. Being understanding can solve lots of problems and keep love alive.
I think it is because divorce has became so easy. Marriage is not easy and takes some work. Instead of trying to work problems out it is just easier for some people to cut their losses and move on. Years ago divorce was only option in extreme circumstances, now anybody who has an ';unreconcilable difference'; can get divorced.
Well, I can tell you that the Christian divorce rate is as high as the secular (worldly) divorce rate.
So, because they seem to have little in commom, what would be the common link that would create this.
Many good churches with good people in them have a real problem and they share it with the world.
When two people get married, the world tears them apart, tells them they are individuals and should live their own lives, etc.
The church tells them that their marriage is sacred, and to keep it holy, and that they are now one flesh. But at the same time, the church will have the mens groups, and the ladies groups, and the mens retreats and the ladies retreats, mens only meetings, ladies only meetings. Get my point? How can you say someone is one flesh , and then your actions are to separate them whenever possible?
So the Church and the world have one major thing in commom that would keep their divorce rates equal to one another. They both divide the one flesh.
i like your answer..i also think that people today get married for the wrong reasons...lust not love...people also don't realize that over time people do change...so it's either both grow together ...or the other person will grow apart from the other one and find someone similar to them
You are right. I think it is mainly because they are not ready to get married when they do. Statistically, people are getting married WAY older than they used to when the baby boomers were around. We should see that divorce rate decline as people are now waiting till they are older to settle down.
Many differant reasons,
maybe jumping into it too soon and not ready.
Maybe being unfaithful.
maybe abuse.
The advent of the no-fault divorce.
People don't take it seriously. They jump in without thinking, and realizing that it isn't just about puppy love, and it requires work.
one big reason is because ppl mostly think that they are in love when in actiality they are just in love with the idea of a perfect, all-american life of wife, husband, 2 kids, a dog and the white picket fence.
unnatural act
People can take the sanity of spending maybe a few hours with each other but then when it comes down to maybe having to spend 9-17 hours with them becomes unbearable.
I think it is a lot more complicated than that. You would be right if people just jumped into marriage after a short period of dating. However, I can't see people being able to pretend they are someone else for a year or more. I think a lot of what happens is related to expectations and responsibilities. Life is hard enough but when you get married you are suddenly faced with a whole new set of responsibilities and expectations in addition to what already existed. A lot of people are just not prepared to deal with this. They struggle for a couple of years but never are really able to get a handle on things and it all just falls apart. I also think it is partially related to the fact that we have become more of a self focused culture. As a society now days we are more focused on what is good for us and what are we getting and what do we want. When you get married you have to change that what is in it for me to we and that isn't how we are taught to see life now days.
you are right, I got married 4 years ago my divorce was final in january..I don't beleive in marriage. I would not do it again
i have exactly the same thoughts as urs.. good view brother.. :) i totally agree with u
They are getting married for the wrong reasons..Some just want the feeling, experience of being married, some rush into something they are not ready for and dont take the time to get to know their partner before getting married....I was married for the wrong reasons and now I wont settle for anything less ..I want the whole Soul mate, partnership, love, passion, and being down for my man completely and solidly..no exceptions...
because they married 2 soon
They are excited by the idea of a wedding and the attention it brings and aren't aware of how much work goes into a marriage.
coz ppl get into a relation way to fast then marry way 2 fast and then diverce way to fast
get it
I think is what you say and more. A lot married people got married at a young age. Some in their teens. They don't know what a serious relationship is. Also, people get married out of ';love'; instead of understanding and compromising and learning that their partner is the one.
i think that marriage is a used up idea that doesn't fit anymore to our society's behavior.how can anyone expect to be faithful for all his life for example.its nonsense.and people are getting divorced mostly because of this.the man or woman were unfaithful and there it all ends.
I think you are partly right, and also that people marry sooner than they used to. They don't take time to really get to know each other, and to discuss all the really big issues.
But I also think that people see divorce much more as an option than people used to. Marriage vows don't seem to have the same meaning they once did. We are living in a throw-away society, and people treat marriage like anything else they feel they no longer need, so out it goes.
Some aren't willing to put the time and effort into working on relationships. Some are selfish in the decision to divorce and don't stop to think how it will affect children.
Some are affected by problems that don't seem to have been as rampant in our society in the past--drug addiction and violence being two of those issues. Those are problems that sometimes divorce is the only sane answer to.
Marriage is not easy, in fact a successful marriage requires a lot of work, from both parties. I think a lot of people don't realize that. Don't forget how many have not had good role models for marriage, either.
Because there are somethings that couples do not talk about before getting married to truly find out if they are compatable
1. Finacial Stability: One side of the relationship usually takes up the bill. Whick always create aggrevation on both sides.
2. Sex: One may want it all the time and the other may want it once in a while.
3. Relegion: One may be relegious the other may not be.
I could go one here but I don't want to right an essay.
It's true. Me and my fiance have a moto we live by. Act how you would if you were married while dating. Then there are no surprises when they say '; I do';
It depends, I know people that been dating for years, they get married and after a few months, the get divorced, then I know other couples (including my hubby %26amp; me) that we got married very soon after dating, and stay married for ever.
I think its because you still have something new to learning from your partner, but if you get married after so many years dating or even living together, what鈥檚 there to learn
becuase marriage causes laziness. your married why have to look your best or turn them out or take them out or show them a good time they will be there anyway (RIGHT) Wrong...
Because at least one of them is very weak and begins to blame all the natural problems of life on the spouse.
I THINK THEY BECOME TIRED OF THEIR SPOUSE.YOU NEED SPICE AND REAL LOVE TO STAY TOGETHER.
Many couples live together, marry, and then divorce so I think there's more to it. In my opinion, it's a lack understanding that a good marriage takes a lot of work. No matter how much you love each other, there will be times when you disagree. You've got to work things out together with the idea that are going to stay together no matter what and must find a solution to the problem that does not destroy your commitment to the marriage and each other. Do not marry with the idea that if it doesn't work out you can always divorce. That type of relationship, lacking commitment, is doomed to failure.
Thats a big part of it. But some people just want to be married and dont focus on the partner they have if its really the right one.
I mean after you get a couple red flags in the relationship you need to step back and take a look at things dont ever jump into a marriage without dating for a while and try living togeather a few months. Living togeather will really tell you what a person is like.
Because they are not willing to work through the tough times. It is easier to get a divorce, but it is harder to work through the bad times. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and life gets good again. Married 13 years, and happy. http://profiles.yahoo.com/gorillamyke
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