The #1 cause for divorce today is financial stress within the relationship. Men and women never get on the same page about the finances and get deeply into debt. Dave Ramsey has it going on.Why do you think so many couples who get married end up divorced?
i think so many of them rush into it. take your time get to know the person
Maybe it's because when you are married, you take your partner's love for granted and stop showing how much you love them and caring about your appearance. I think it's also harder to be with one person all the time than once in a while. Sometimes, after a day of hard work, people have less patience and can't avoid getting angry very easily. And when one person is in a bad mood, the other doesn't usually try to change it. Instead, they complain... Financial problems are also one of the reasons why people stop getting along. I think people should reflect about all this and try to be less selfish. Being understanding can solve lots of problems and keep love alive.
I think it is because divorce has became so easy. Marriage is not easy and takes some work. Instead of trying to work problems out it is just easier for some people to cut their losses and move on. Years ago divorce was only option in extreme circumstances, now anybody who has an ';unreconcilable difference'; can get divorced.
Well, I can tell you that the Christian divorce rate is as high as the secular (worldly) divorce rate.
So, because they seem to have little in commom, what would be the common link that would create this.
Many good churches with good people in them have a real problem and they share it with the world.
When two people get married, the world tears them apart, tells them they are individuals and should live their own lives, etc.
The church tells them that their marriage is sacred, and to keep it holy, and that they are now one flesh. But at the same time, the church will have the mens groups, and the ladies groups, and the mens retreats and the ladies retreats, mens only meetings, ladies only meetings. Get my point? How can you say someone is one flesh , and then your actions are to separate them whenever possible?
So the Church and the world have one major thing in commom that would keep their divorce rates equal to one another. They both divide the one flesh.
i like your answer..i also think that people today get married for the wrong reasons...lust not love...people also don't realize that over time people do change...so it's either both grow together ...or the other person will grow apart from the other one and find someone similar to them
You are right. I think it is mainly because they are not ready to get married when they do. Statistically, people are getting married WAY older than they used to when the baby boomers were around. We should see that divorce rate decline as people are now waiting till they are older to settle down.
Many differant reasons,
maybe jumping into it too soon and not ready.
Maybe being unfaithful.
maybe abuse.
The advent of the no-fault divorce.
People don't take it seriously. They jump in without thinking, and realizing that it isn't just about puppy love, and it requires work.
one big reason is because ppl mostly think that they are in love when in actiality they are just in love with the idea of a perfect, all-american life of wife, husband, 2 kids, a dog and the white picket fence.
unnatural act
People can take the sanity of spending maybe a few hours with each other but then when it comes down to maybe having to spend 9-17 hours with them becomes unbearable.
I think it is a lot more complicated than that. You would be right if people just jumped into marriage after a short period of dating. However, I can't see people being able to pretend they are someone else for a year or more. I think a lot of what happens is related to expectations and responsibilities. Life is hard enough but when you get married you are suddenly faced with a whole new set of responsibilities and expectations in addition to what already existed. A lot of people are just not prepared to deal with this. They struggle for a couple of years but never are really able to get a handle on things and it all just falls apart. I also think it is partially related to the fact that we have become more of a self focused culture. As a society now days we are more focused on what is good for us and what are we getting and what do we want. When you get married you have to change that what is in it for me to we and that isn't how we are taught to see life now days.
you are right, I got married 4 years ago my divorce was final in january..I don't beleive in marriage. I would not do it again
i have exactly the same thoughts as urs.. good view brother.. :) i totally agree with u
They are getting married for the wrong reasons..Some just want the feeling, experience of being married, some rush into something they are not ready for and dont take the time to get to know their partner before getting married....I was married for the wrong reasons and now I wont settle for anything less ..I want the whole Soul mate, partnership, love, passion, and being down for my man completely and solidly..no exceptions...
because they married 2 soon
They are excited by the idea of a wedding and the attention it brings and aren't aware of how much work goes into a marriage.
coz ppl get into a relation way to fast then marry way 2 fast and then diverce way to fast
get it
I think is what you say and more. A lot married people got married at a young age. Some in their teens. They don't know what a serious relationship is. Also, people get married out of ';love'; instead of understanding and compromising and learning that their partner is the one.
i think that marriage is a used up idea that doesn't fit anymore to our society's behavior.how can anyone expect to be faithful for all his life for example.its nonsense.and people are getting divorced mostly because of this.the man or woman were unfaithful and there it all ends.
I think you are partly right, and also that people marry sooner than they used to. They don't take time to really get to know each other, and to discuss all the really big issues.
But I also think that people see divorce much more as an option than people used to. Marriage vows don't seem to have the same meaning they once did. We are living in a throw-away society, and people treat marriage like anything else they feel they no longer need, so out it goes.
Some aren't willing to put the time and effort into working on relationships. Some are selfish in the decision to divorce and don't stop to think how it will affect children.
Some are affected by problems that don't seem to have been as rampant in our society in the past--drug addiction and violence being two of those issues. Those are problems that sometimes divorce is the only sane answer to.
Marriage is not easy, in fact a successful marriage requires a lot of work, from both parties. I think a lot of people don't realize that. Don't forget how many have not had good role models for marriage, either.
Because there are somethings that couples do not talk about before getting married to truly find out if they are compatable
1. Finacial Stability: One side of the relationship usually takes up the bill. Whick always create aggrevation on both sides.
2. Sex: One may want it all the time and the other may want it once in a while.
3. Relegion: One may be relegious the other may not be.
I could go one here but I don't want to right an essay.
It's true. Me and my fiance have a moto we live by. Act how you would if you were married while dating. Then there are no surprises when they say '; I do';
It depends, I know people that been dating for years, they get married and after a few months, the get divorced, then I know other couples (including my hubby %26amp; me) that we got married very soon after dating, and stay married for ever.
I think its because you still have something new to learning from your partner, but if you get married after so many years dating or even living together, what鈥檚 there to learn
becuase marriage causes laziness. your married why have to look your best or turn them out or take them out or show them a good time they will be there anyway (RIGHT) Wrong...
Because at least one of them is very weak and begins to blame all the natural problems of life on the spouse.
I THINK THEY BECOME TIRED OF THEIR SPOUSE.YOU NEED SPICE AND REAL LOVE TO STAY TOGETHER.
Many couples live together, marry, and then divorce so I think there's more to it. In my opinion, it's a lack understanding that a good marriage takes a lot of work. No matter how much you love each other, there will be times when you disagree. You've got to work things out together with the idea that are going to stay together no matter what and must find a solution to the problem that does not destroy your commitment to the marriage and each other. Do not marry with the idea that if it doesn't work out you can always divorce. That type of relationship, lacking commitment, is doomed to failure.
Thats a big part of it. But some people just want to be married and dont focus on the partner they have if its really the right one.
I mean after you get a couple red flags in the relationship you need to step back and take a look at things dont ever jump into a marriage without dating for a while and try living togeather a few months. Living togeather will really tell you what a person is like.
Because they are not willing to work through the tough times. It is easier to get a divorce, but it is harder to work through the bad times. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and life gets good again. Married 13 years, and happy. http://profiles.yahoo.com/gorillamyke
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