Why do couples divorce when they married?

What are some of the reason couples choose to divorce when they married eachother at first. Marriage is indeed a big step but what are some of the reasons couples go separate ways?Why do couples divorce when they married?
Unfortunately that is a more personal issue that the indiviual themself can only answer. People have things happen trhoughout their life that shape the adult they become. If they are abused, or were cheated on, or even emotionally downgraded, this all plays into the reasons that you feel are grounds for divorce. In my marriage it began with the simple feeling of not being loved and cared for. Once that crept in and all the other small things began to add up, the unhappiness, no matter how bad I tried to ignore it, was iminent. By the time adultery was committed on his part, it was an easy step for me to take. But... I think if the adultery had come at the point prior to me becoming unhappy in the marriage, I would have searched for a way to work out our relationship inspite of him cheating. It comes down to what you are willing to deal with, put up with, and live with. What is right for you may not be for the next person. Each relationship has to decide for itself.Why do couples divorce when they married?
Marriage is not for everyone. Some have this idea that marriage life will be like ';The Cleavers';(leave it to beaver t.v show) However making your marriage work is hard because you have 2 different people with 2 different opinions and upbringing.Compromise is a key to help make a marriage work,however if you have a mate that :Lies,Cheats,Abusive verbally %26amp; physically,Substance Abusers,these things can cause couples to go thier separate ways,plus unfortunately some get married and after living with that person for a while realize they were not in Love, that's a sad realization!
My wife's sister married a guy she lived with for a couple of years after they married and had a kid he thought he had a license to beat the crap out of her. Some people are not the same people you married years before,people change.
Infidelity, no more interest in each other, no communication, I could go on and on but these are the main ones I do believe.
- the couple doesn't communicate properly


- lack of understanding and comprehension


- not enough time spent together, that is, too much time at work and not enough attention to their partner


- some people are non-committers, they can't stand a long-term relationship.


- selfishness.





Those are 5 reasons people end up in divorce, of course there are many other reasons as couples in the world.
There are meny.1 is money,sex,cheating,kids and more.
i am still maried but the only reason i would consider divorce is if he cheated! i can deal with all the other crap but cheating is the ultimate NO NO!!
A spouse cheating, spouse hitting them, spouse never happy, stuff like that.
cheating and abuse
Alot of times they are simply ';caught up in the moment'; when they make the fateful commitment. Our commercial business industry is alot of the reason why, due to the fact that they create this very romantic senario.


Then before you know it the honeymoon is over and reality is what you make of it.


ANYTHING that has real worth takes work, patience,blood sweat and tears....and yes happiness too- to finnally see the fruits of ones labor.


Too many people bail due to not planning for this.
I like what ';nalla'; said.
The reason I did, was because he was unfaithful. I stayed with him 10 yrs hoping he would change.


The man I am married to now got divorced because his wife was unfaithful. In my opinion, that is the only valid reason anyone should divorce. Or physical abuse too.
Because you can't get divorced until you get married first. Marriage is the first step towards a successful divorce.
Hitting, cheating are two big ones.





However the most common reasons are communication and respect. Lack of either will result in divorce and are usually the core reasons behind hitting and cheating.
Infidility was the reason I ended things with my husband. I came to the conclusion that I'd never be able to trust him again and that was no way to live. Finances are one of the number one reasons for problems in a married - and of course lack of communication.
They grow apart, no communication. Adultery, abuse for many more reasons.


I have found out it always take two people to make it work.
They stopped going out to the movies and dinner together. They stopped showing affection. One was treated like just another piece of the living room furniture. Glad I never had to go through any of that.
More times than not, It's because they both have ';ME'; attitudes and not ';WE'; attitudes. Believe it or not most break ups are over silly Minor things. Also it's way to easy to get a Divorce now days, and it's an Accepted option in our Society. Facing life's problems is way to hard, so People get Divorced then try again. Looking for the Dream of a perfect match. Guess what, It's not out there with out working at it.
There's a myriad of reasons. Here's a few:





-Many people nowadays rush into marriage. They feel, ';Well, we like the same things and we've lived together for a couple of months, I think we're ready!'; Unfortunately, a few months and a lifetime of commitment are two incredibly different things. Within a year, they start noticing things that can only be seen over an extended period of time, and if they don't like what they see, they might call it quits.





This is known (at least to me) as the 'honeymoon' effect; those first few months in a relationship with someone you like can kind of make you overlook your partner's flaws. Once the 'honeymoon' is over, however...





-People change all the time. New friends, new hobbies, new interests, new jobs, etc. It's possible that the one member of the happy couple may change in a way the other doesn't like. Conflict ensues, and can result in divorce.





One of the underlying reasons, though, is that people are often unwilling to change. A strong sense of self-identity makes one not want to alter who they are for the sake of another, even someone they love, possibly out of fear of being controlled (something no one likes to feel). Some people's self-identity is so ingrained in them, in fact, that even the differences between them and the other person feel threatening, even if those differences aren't imposed on them.





That's why people divorce.
No matter if it is abuse, unfaithfulness, wanting different things, or what it really all boils down to a lack of communication both before and after you say I do. You stop really talking to one another and start talking about bills family career whatever and soon you are headed in the wrong direction. While real communication is hard and takes a lot of energy it is in my opinion, the true thing that ruins all marriages. The abuse, or unfaithfulness are really just what happens when you stop communicating.