To other couples who have been recently divorced?

I found out my brother and sister in-law are getting a divorce. There have been no other problems except for money issues.. What has a relative or friend said or done to help support you? did it help? What would be the best thing for me to do to help support my brother? My sis got a divorce, but didn't know what to say to her either.


Thanks in advance for all your help.To other couples who have been recently divorced?
they shouldn't g et a divorce because of money, the thing is did the have more money before marriage? it's not love if it all about moneyTo other couples who have been recently divorced?
Just let them know you are there if they need to talk. Try to do things that would be fun so he doesnt get depressed.
there is not much you can say as far as advice but you should just be there to listen to him and all that would be best
What can you say? Call him and let him know you are there for him in anyway that he might need you.





Then give him a ring every other day or so to just say hi, what doing. Ask him if he would like to go out to a movie. In other words just keep in touch, and try to do things together with him to build a closer relationship. If there are kids involved go out all together. You are his sister, if you can't give him the support he needs who else can. Blood is thicker than water.
be there when they need someone to talk with
My sister and bro in law got divorced after a 12 year marriage. It was tough. We all loved him, and she was the one cheating.





I suggest keeping you mouth shut- as much as possible. Never agree with anything - just nod and say ';that's tough';.


If you are not careful your advise will bite you in the ***.





The best thing you can do is let them know you love them.





You stated that their only problems were money. That is never the case. Only they know the real story- and it doesn't matter. Those details just don't matter.
It's really a tough time for anyone going through a divorce, but what helped me was being around old true friends just speaking my feelings when I was sad, crying, pissed, angry, frustrated...they never tried to give me advice - especially if they were in a good marriage/relationship...true friends meaning not the ones that party and say forget him and move on (drink, party-to-forget friends) because it's not even about the person you lost or are losing, but how the person going through the divorce feels about themselves as a failure...bottom line: you can't really say anything to sound like you can fix, but just your listening to your brother EVERYtime and ANYtime he feels like talking..you don't even really have to answer him...just physically be there can be enough (because there's a different feeling for person in emotional pain to be with certain people - they would rather be with people they want to be around, which isn't very many. Even though they may be in a crowd of people, they will still feel alone) Hug him when you feel he needs a hug...remind him you love him, because going through a divorce makes you feel like you've failed and that you're not worth loving...Good luck to your brother...
ahow about asking why they split up. If it's financial maybe help them find a solution or point them in the direction who can help them out. The they need to go on a vacation even if it's just a weekend camp trip. load a camper with all they need (including booze and fun stuff, hiking equip, etc.) Make sure it's after they figure out their financial problems. If there is really nothing you can do, then be supportive of who you can, if its both then so be it and don't interfere. If it's meant to be and it'll happen it's not the ending it's a new beginning for both of them either way. Good luck
I would say that the best thing you can do is simply to support them no matter what decision they make about whether to get divorced or not. Just be there for them, be supportive. I got divorced going on three years ago and the last thing I wanted to hear from friends and loved ones was marriage advice at that stage in the game. I was alreadly paying for marriage counseling and didn't need to hear the same advice from everyone I cared about.





Divorce is extremely ROTTEN. It is on your mind ALL THE TIME and infects your thoughts like a cancer. Perhaps you should think of things you and your brother like to do together that has NOTHING to do with what's going on in his divorce/relationship; activities or things that you liked to do in the past that always make you both happy, like maybe going to a movie, watching or playing sports together, going out for pizza %26amp; beer, whatever. People going through divorce NEED more joy in their lives and usually temporarily forget how to find it or make themselves happy. Anyone that can help temporarily relieve them from the divorce drama and expose them to a little happy distraction will be doing them a HUGE favor. If he WANTS to talk about the divorce, by all means go ahead. You dont want the divorcee to get the impression you are trying to avoid the issue either. That would also make them feel awkward. But dont PROMPT them to talk about it either, unless it's clear they want to. Just be supportive, forget about it for awhile, and try to do something fun. They will remember the fun activity long after the divorce is forgotten and in the past.
';wrong person, wrong place, wrong time';.
Tell him that you will be there for him. Have a night out. have some fun when his ready introduce him to one of your nice single friends
I'm sorry to hear about this. If there's anything I can do or if you ever want to come over, just to have something to eat or just talk, you're always welcome.
it depends on the circumstances. if it's a ';sad'; split, you can offer your support in the way of listening. calling to see if they're ok.


with me, it was different. my divorce was hostile and very traumatic! i needed friends to vent on.


the best thing someone said was that she was there for me, understood my situation and that i could stay at her home anytime, use her phone, etc. (i never did) but i appreciated her offer.


when i finally divorced, i wanted my friends to celebrate with me, but no one would! they thought divorce should be mourned..but i was relieved and happy and wanted to party. (i didn't get my party)


so you have to feel out the situation or ask.