Is there any chance for broken up couples coming back together?

Have you ever heard or seen broken up couples coming back together after breaking up for more than 2 years? And if they come back together,is there any hope or chance the relationship survive?Is there any chance for broken up couples coming back together?
It's happened fairly frequently... of course both have had to have had some growing up to do while parted. I think it happens when the two have realized their initial expectations were too high and also that the other person was not entirely resopnsible for the break up.





I pray this case works out for you, as often you may still find your first love was the best... and I also hope Christ is a part of your healing re-union....Is there any chance for broken up couples coming back together?
I think that yes, couples can come back together, but it's risky. There may be unresolved issues, the people may have changed, old issues might come up and be problematic, just like in the past relationship. I would proceed with caution, and not jump into anything.





If the two people come together, and are interested in eachother again, I would suggest they get the time to get to know eachother once again - there is a chance the two are completely different people now. Maybe after becoming friends, then something could begin to develop. I would take it real slow.
Yess, listen, sometimes people need to grow up before they are able to co-exist. Remember the saying if you love something, let it go, if it comes back.... or You dont know what you got till its gone? Dont ever give up on love, but at the same time dont ever settle, lots of luck
Maybe but it also depends on how the relationship was. It isn't impossible.
Hmm, if the people realized that they were wrong and still loved each other than yeah it's totally possible.
Yeah, people get back together all the time. Whether it works depends on why they split up to begin with and if that's changed.
There is always hope. It depends on the situtatuion and how much each other really want to work on things.
its better to move on smone else rather than stick with the past bcz in those relationship u suffer more and time moves fast my friend ,see smone quickly otherwise will remain confused and mk ur life hell.
yes i have been there my wife and i broke up a couple times and in fact after we were divorced we got back together for another two years and if she hadn't been so stubborn about getting a job to help with expenses we would still be together today


good luck
Yeah I've seen couples get back together after a break-up. It didn't last long, they still had the same issues as before and getting back together didn't solve anything.
I don't know what your circumstances were for you folks breaking up in the first place, but I would definitely make sure that the past stay in the past in so far as, people who you've dated, lived with etc... My X and attempted it and our largest stumbling block by far were people who were in our lives when we were apart (2.6 years). It would always happen when we argued, (we're all human and it happens just b/c) and ultimately was the reason that WE decided it wasn't going to work for us. I think if both parties have their minds made up that they can make it work then it will be. However, your X and you have to be the ones that determine what the best course of action is for you two. Make up your minds and move on from there whatever decision you come to.
My husband and I separated for two and a half years when we got back together it was like brand new Love.He couldn't get enough of me. Before that happened we'd been married for 18 years so when we got back together it was great and it still is. It's been 8 years now and we are still in love and are best friends.
Well, thats a good question, and i think u could have hope
There is a chance. I am living proof. That is a long time and it would be like falling in love again. Look at it that way opposed to ';is this going to work'; The feelings will be there I promise
Yes I have seen this. My parents seperated for 5 years and got back together and are happy. My boyfriend and I slpit up and were split up for 2 years and got back together. We get along better now than we ever did. It was the best thing that happened to us!

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Do you think its weird that gay couples can adopt children?

i love gay people, don't get me wrong.. but something about this just doesnt set well with me. i dont know! do these couples think about how the kid will be teased in school? it seems like the ';problems'; that the couple went through would be passed down to the child as well. i just dont know why but there is something about it that i just dont really likeDo you think its weird that gay couples can adopt children?
yeah, a little bit. and i do support gays and marriage! but it would be hard on the child i think. growing up.





like imagineing bringing friends over for the first time.





maybe its will all change in a few years thoughDo you think its weird that gay couples can adopt children?
if it doesnt get accepted now, it'll always be unacceptable. gotta start somewhere.





if it's a happy family, then its a happy family.








I see what you're saying though.

Whats a good anime with a hot couples please help?

anime in english dubbed not subs i hate reading subs so please helpWhats a good anime with a hot couples please help?
';Gravitation';. It's short, only 13 episodes.





-WAIT! Are you even into Shonen-Ai?(Boy love)Whats a good anime with a hot couples please help?
Ouran High School Host club


It's on youTube

Why do I only hear of older couples beign swingers?

is there no young couples out there that crave this?Why do I only hear of older couples beign swingers?
Aren't there orgies in college any more? What's wrong with kids these days?





No, seriously, perhaps you're not listening in the right places.Why do I only hear of older couples beign swingers?
Because of the fact that as people get older they usually get more secure in themselves and in their relationship and in their sexuality. Most older people can separate love from sex.





I am 38 and am a swinger.





You can find someone your own age....but I hope you okay it with your husband first!
There are many young couples, but older couples have matured emotionally and no longer suffer from many of the insecurities that younger people do, and their marriages are better established and therefore they are very certain and secure of their value to each other.





That said, ';old'; is a subjective term. From a 2000 study of swingers done by Bellermine University:





';The typical swinger in this study was 39 years old, had two years of college education, had been married 1.5 times, was in a current marriage lasting 10.5 years, and had been involved in swinging for 5 years.';





Since when is 30's old? ;-)
Wife and i started when we were in our 20's I hope u don't consider this older. If you have any questions. im or e-mail me.

Couples Retreat Movie Online?

Hey, does anyone have a link to the movie online?





I know it just came out this past weekend, but if anyone knows a site or link that has the movie I'd really appreciate it.





Please, and thank you.Couples Retreat Movie Online?
nah it's not out yet even online. you could try www.ovguide.com and try their links. good luck!

Why don't most marriage counselors tell couples when it's obvious things aren't going to work out?

Is it greed? Is it fear of looking incompetent? Is it a misled belief that any couple can make it work if they just try hard enough?Why don't most marriage counselors tell couples when it's obvious things aren't going to work out?
Money.. $135 per hour...Why don't most marriage counselors tell couples when it's obvious things aren't going to work out?
They don't want to put themselves out of a job.
my marriage counselor bluntly told me to get a lawyer!
Bad for business.
If they did that they wouldn't make any money on the follow up visits.
Two reasons - one is definitely greed. They charge exorbitant rates and as long as you keep coming, they keep getting paid.


Reason 2-they honestly believe with enough time, they can solve whatever your problems might be.
I think it's mainly about the money. (greed) It's not their life that's involved in the marriage, ya know?
They don't make any money if they tell you to give up...





And people always have their own agendas, maybe the therapist is still trying to work out his parents failed marriage through yours.
i think that most marriage counselors believe that they can. all the sudden something can dawn in someone. theyve seen it happen, and are just trying to find what you need to get to that point
They do!!!!! And they will tell you that to repair the relationship may be a long haul, with no guarantees....
There's no money in that for them.
greed.
i think counselors just need to be strait up with people they try to get the bond back in a relatsionship but honstely it really the two people eighter u work it out or u go differnt ways that just a choice u got to work out and make
greed
Nope it's because that's not our call to make. I can be very direct with clients and say if you all can't come to some sort of resolution on at least the major disputes then things won't change and you'll both continue to be miserable. Some people will take that as motivation to change, others will give up, and others still will go home and be miserable. Whatever their decision is has to be totally up to them. And surprisingly no one ever comes out and asks me do I think it will work. I do tend to see them after one of my more difficult assignment sessions apart from one another and ready to move on with their lives but I as the therapist can't make the decision to go or stay for them.
Because its at that very point when the counselor sees a break through coming. True, all relationships arent saved by counseling but ifneither of you have quit, the the counselor sees the ray of hope, no matter what you may think. True, marriage counseling is always the easiest thing to go thru but it may be the last resort to save a dying marriage. Sometimes things do get ugly and nasty in the sessions but thts exactly what the counselor is trying to rid the marriage of. We are trained to take a couple willing and wanting to save their marriage to levl they fear to go to on their own and sometimes the couples do think its over but when in reality theyre the closest theyve ever been to actually saving the marriage. The biggest sign to a counselor that tells him its over is when the couple begins to not showing up for sessions. You two have to decide when your relationship is beyond repair, not the counselor as its not his marriage. Counseling is like a medical doctor or priestor paramedic in knowing fully well that not every thing in life can be saved and we will all end up losing some in the process of our duties.
Show me the money? There is no Mercedes or College money if you just apply common sense and call it what it is.





That is why people that use these ';Professionals'; are not viewed kindly by normal Midwestern Farms Types.





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I think its a little of both. But I feel that if a couple is coming to counseling, they want to stay together and work things out. That is their decision, and nobody has the right to tell them they should not be together. they Have to reach that decision on their own.
I was lucky enough to go to a counselor who was able to tell us the truth. After two visits he told me it was obvious I would never be happy in the relationship. Good luck.
i think its because when they know its not goin to work out. they still want to atleast try to make it work. or it could just be about the money.(greed)
cuz as long as you keep going to them they keep getting paid.
I vote for greed. It's the same reason lawyers never want to resolve anything. They keep getting paid
People dont really WANT to hear that thier relationship isnt going to work.


Counselors are supposed to be objective in a positive manner and that doesnt jibe well with that. It could bve partly because they want you to keep coming to them





They try to teach folks how to resolve issues on thier own.


Occasionally some have reccomended seperations. It depends on the particular counselor i guess.


LIke any position...some dr's arent great some are etc...
If they tell you, then you wont give them any more money, right?


Also, I think they are not allowed to do this because it goes against their jobs...it is their job to make it work out. They would be admitting that they have failed and open themselves up to law suits...Sandra

Is it true ? 3 out of 10 couples are interracial marriages in the Philippines?

No, i dont think the statistics is correct.





Perhaps 3 in every 100 or 2 in every 1,000...





There are still many who lines up, in Local Civil Registrars marrying Filipinos than those who line up in Foreign Embassies...





There are several hundreds of inter-racial marriages in the Philippines or marriages between foreigners and Filipinas but I dont think it is that big.





Not all FIlipinas wanted to marry a foreigner...while for those who really fell in love. Love knows no skin color or culture difference..right?Is it true ? 3 out of 10 couples are interracial marriages in the Philippines?
Although there are millions of interracial couples, the percentage is not quite that high enough yet showing 30% of the overall population.. The Philippines might have already hit 100 million population so there's way more Filipino couples there that are Filipinos..





But since you are talking about race.. It might be possible in a way since Filipinos are actually comprised of mixed races so if that is the case, unless 1st generation kids and beyond of immigrants (they are Filipinos already), purely marries with the same pure blooded 1st generation and beyond children of an immigrant like the Chinese, then probably 8 out of 10 can be considered interracial.. This is on the basis that most doesn't have a pure blood anyways as far as race is concerned.Is it true ? 3 out of 10 couples are interracial marriages in the Philippines?
the Philippines is originally mixed with many races. but if you mean marriages of filipino citizen to other foreign country citizen, then i doubt. i think 3 out of 10 is a too big a number. The population in the country is large. did they count the marriages of the provinces as well? there are many small towns here, small town folks meeting other small town folks is a common story.. haha... or maybe i just can't imagine it.
i would say so, many of the phillipinos go to S.Korea believing they are going to be pop singers, but its all a ploy and part of human trafficing, so they become ';juicys'; at local bars around U.S. bases, and many GIs end up buying the girls contract off from the bar and they end up marrying them. After there service is up many Gis move to the phillipines because of the low cost of living, i saw it happen plenty of times while i was stationed in korea
I'm not surprised. I know a woman who I used to work with who was Filipino and married to a Haitian.
specially same sex marriages
Very common.
them girls from the philippines are sexy;-)
I guess so... I belong so I agree ('',)
This is what I call making the right choice. Filipinos Rock!!
yesh. i guess so. there are many foreigners in the phils.
yes in think so

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Do you think Intimancy and commitment between couples is becoming increasingly confused or difficult?

Is this in any part due to the way technology is becoming more imbedded in our everyday lives. We desire it, depend on it and even relate to it on a (psuedo) intimate level. When bio and nanotechnology become more of a reality will this get worse?Do you think Intimancy and commitment between couples is becoming increasingly confused or difficult?
It is, but it's not technology's fault. The same thing has happened in countless societies. Societies tend to go through cycles of more complicated openly, then driving those with more complicated relationships into hiding when unsafe things become prevelant, then back again once things start to get safer. I think there has to be a happy medium somewhre, I'm just not sure what it would be.Do you think Intimancy and commitment between couples is becoming increasingly confused or difficult?
people think divorce is always an option, so no one tries very hard anymore. they split at the first sign of trouble istead of working it out.
for me it is lately being single again after 22 years it seems slightly more complicated %26amp; a total free for all.
No, I just think people are more open about it now, and divorce is easy to get. That's all.
I think the media is feeding crap into every body's heads and teaching us to value meaningless, shallow traits. It can only get worse unless there is a profound change in the popular culture.
Yes I think it is getting harder.
I think people have stopped seeing marriage as something sacred and started seeing it as a stepping stone in life. It's no longer a lifelong commitment you make to that one special person you find in life, but something that fits in somewhere between college and children..

Who gets custody of same sex couples children in the event of a split?

If they couldnt decide between themselves, a judge would decide what was in the best interest of the child. Not that different from male/female couples. These days, the children do not always automatically go to the mother.Who gets custody of same sex couples children in the event of a split?
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Who gets custody of same sex couples children in the event of a split?
it depends, I would assume if one of them was the biological parent, they would. in cases of adoption of im sure its the same as other cases with heterosexual couples, the most fit to be the parent would get most if not all of the custody, if its not shared
I would imagine unlike in the hetero home the court would prefer it be the parent who can provide the most stable home- not the one that best qualifies for public assistance.
I would guess the one who does the most parenting, or the most nuturing one, Presumably the same person.
only one name can be on the birth certificate. that person would. however the partner could very well fight for shared placement, but...
I think it should be either biological parent or the most fit if the biological parent is not.
I would imagine its no different then a straight couple, the parent that best suits the safety and is in the child's best interest.
Probably the partner who can best provide emotionally and financially for the child.
The better parent.
The person that can provide the better home.
WELL ONE HAS PRIORITY IF THEY ARE BIOLOGIC PARENT.

Are their any cruises catering to couples from Fla or Ny?

It really depends on what you like. My favorite cruise destination is Alaska, but if you like warm weather, Hawaii is great. Anywhere to the Caribbean; Bahamas or Jamaica would be great, you could also go to Australia. St. Maarten, St. Thomas, Grand Cayman, Cozumel, etc. they are all really great, so it just depends what you are looking for and what looks best to you.





Carnival is going to be the cheapest, but not always the nicest cruise. Royal Caribbean is a little more expensive, but well worth the upgrade. If you don't know much about crusiing, I would not use a site like Expedia, Orbitz, etc. you are left to take care of the booking youself. There is lots of little details when it comes to cruising and it helps to have an agent that is specialized in cruises. My agent has always had lower prices than the online discounters because her agency offers group discounts, so it is not always cheapest to go thru one of these sites. I have my answer to a similar question below, it may also be useful to you as far as which line to choose.





Here is my answer:





In order of preference





Celebrity


Disney


Royal Caribbean


Carnival





Reasoning- Celebrity has a very classy feel. The food is delicious and it is a very nice over all experience.





Disney, the service is unbeatable. Your server will follow you to your dinner each night, so you always know them and they get to know your preferance. It is clean. It is fun for adults, not just kids. It will really spoil you once you have been on a Disney cruise, they require the highest level of service from their staff. I have heard many people that have been on the most expensive cruises that you cannot beat the service of the Disney cruise. The shows are also really great.





Royal Caribbean is really good for many price levels. The ship is great, the staff is great and so is the food. They usually cost less than celebrity or Disney, but they are still a great ship. A good ship to get started with.





Carnival is more of a party ship. There will usually be younger people on the ship because it is less expensive, therefore more affordable. The quality just isn't as nice and it doesn't give you the true experience of cruising.





Last December I was heading home from a cruise and happened to be sitting next to two families that had just returned from cruising with Carnival. They didn't know each other but they were on the same ship and got to talking. Both were very dissapointed with the trip, even the kids. They said the shows were boring and the food wasn't very good at all. A couple of people even said they asked for cold meat sandwiches for dinner.





It really is true that you get what you pay for. If you spend a little more you will get a trip you never forget. However, no matter which you choose will have a great time, cruising is the best way to travel.








Hope this helps!Are their any cruises catering to couples from Fla or Ny?
I fell asleep reading that reply.....so





From Florida its a major port, you will find no problem finding a cruise from there, if you can drive to florida then you will get a great deal.


From New York you can also take a cruise, they actually have a cruise called...';Cruise to no where';


You leave New York and go out to open water for a night, then come back the next day to New York, great way to try a cruise if you never done one. Really a great way to have a dinnerand suprise your loved one.





Good luck

Why is it that in movies/U.S. TV you never see happy interracial couples?

Why is it that in movies/U.S. TV you never see happy interracial couples. Black people are always paired together and so on...





The only time you see interracial couples is when they are in an unhappy relationship!!!!! How can Hollywood be so narrow-minded????Why is it that in movies/U.S. TV you never see happy interracial couples?
The media is sooo shallow, they want to appeal to a bigger audience to make more money. Remeber, t.v. is nothing like reality. I've seen plenty of happy interracial couples together,in my family there are strong prosperous interracial marriges. To me it seems in reality interracial couples are happier. The media wants people to think segregation is the way of life, and sadly some people follow this, then again many others don't.Why is it that in movies/U.S. TV you never see happy interracial couples?
There's been a few...it's not all like on trash shows such as Jerry Springer.





What about ';I Love Lucy?'; They were an interracial couple both on TV and in real life. Lucy was white, Ricky (Desi Arnaz) was Hispanic.





There are two movies that had interracial couples both of the movies starring Sidney Portier: To Sir With Love and Guess Who's Coming To Dinner. Both movies were successful despite the fact that the ban on interracial marriages was either still in effect or just lifted in the same year, and there was still a lot of controversy. The movie ';Guess Who'; with Ashton Kutcher is a remake of the Portier classic.





There's the movie Hitch with Will Smith and Eva Mendes.





There was the I/R couple, The Willis family, on The Jeffersons back in the 1970s. They were a happy couple. The wife on the show was in a real-life I/R marriage. She was the mother of rock star Lenny Kravitz.





There was Shawn and Angela on the ABC sitcom ';Boy Meets World'; who was in a mixed relationship, no problems there. There's also Bernard and Rose, an older mixed couple on the show ';Lost'; but that show is not really a ';happy'; show as it were.





There's also been a few movies with mixed couples as secondary/tertiary characters or as extras, but you have to really be observant to find them. In the movie, ';How Stella Got Her Groove Back';, one of Stella's snobbier sisters is married to a white man named Kennedy. She disapproves of Stella being with a younger man, but seem oblivious to the fact that some may look down their noses at HER relationship.





I am still waiting for the '; Meg Ryanesque feel good romantic comedy'; with an I/R couple in it and the couple is treated normally, but something tells me I'll be waiting for a while longer.
Fear.





Of those who would boycott them if they showed the truth.





(Religious Nutjobs).

Do you personally know any interracial couples?

Or have you ever been in an interracial relationship before? If so, what race are you and what race was he/she?





Ive never been in one but am open to itDo you personally know any interracial couples?
Yeah I know a few. I have been in one before, I am white, and she was Hispanic.Do you personally know any interracial couples?
Every one out of 5 parent couples in my school are interracial. I'm at an international school so it's not uncommon at all. Kids in all date outside their ethnicity usually without any concern, probably because of the international community. I've been in a relationship like such. I'm Chinese and he was Bosnian, it was great, it's not like ethnicity made a real difference.
I know this one lady, she was polish and he was african, they are married and have 7 children.The children are not as dark as him.


That's just one, there are many more.One german, a chinese lady, they have 2 kids.All happily married.I have never been in one.








@ pretty princess I don't think so, i'm italian and i've gone out with white guys.I'm very tan, I wouldn't say that counts.Maybe i'm wrong.And nope, i didn't give you the thumbs down.
I know a few. The married ones:





aunt %26amp; uncle: white+asian


3 sisters-in-law %26amp; husbands: asian+white


cousin %26amp; wife: asian/white+latina


cousin %26amp; husband white+black


a bunch of friends: black+white, asian+white


me %26amp; hubby: white+asian





Don't know if it's because we have ';common ground'; that I know a bunch of people in mixed marriages, or if it's just because there are a lot of us here in California.
Yes, a very good friend of mine who's white has been happily married to a black man for over 17 years. They have 3 beautiful children. She's told me many times that she gets more nasty comments from black women, than anyone else.





I have never been attracted to anyone outside of my own race. But, I'm not opposed to it at all. Just never met anyone.
I have been, I am arab he was african american.


Wasnt a releationship though, we just liked eachother lool.


Actually, nearly every guy ive ever liked has never been from my own race.


They have either been asian, black, hispanic etc
I know four interracial couples.





1. Black man, white woman.


2. White man, hispanic woman.


3. Hispanic man, black man.


4. Hispanic man, black woman.
My mom is Korean and my dad is a white dude. They had me and I am a genius and get laid all the time. Same with my brother. Everyone should marry someone from a different race because the diversity in the genes makes you healthier and smarter.
Yes, several.





I am currently in an interracial relationship. I'm white and my boyfriend is Indian. I'm Christian, and he's Hindu. We've been together for eight years.
My cousin is married to an Indian guy. I've never been with someone of a different race. I have a boyfriend but if I was single I'd be open to it. I don't care what colour someone is or where they are from.
yes and yes





1. my parents





2. this one couple has been married for 7 years now and have 3 of the most beautiful kids I've ever seen.





I'm 1/2 black and 1/2 puerto rican and I've dated almost every race out there...
one of my best friends is white...his long term girlfriend is black.





they have a kid together.





strange question lol..nothing wrong with it, just like if you wanna give it a go..go do it.





oh i had sex with a black chick once..was fun, but a one off.
Know em.


Never been in one, unless you consider Caucasian and 1/2 American Indian interracial.





I don't look at skin color; I look at personality/brains.
Me and my boyfriend. And my parents.


(im part japanese, native american and mexican, boyfriend is caucasian/german)
My Geopraphy teacher is from Kenya so he's african and his wife is white.


My friend has a brazilian american boyfriend but she's chinese.
I'm arabic and my husband is as white as they get...straight from Kansas, a good ole farm boy.





http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?…
Ive pretty much dated every race.





%26lt;--- Man whore who doesnt Discriminate
Well they aren't together anymore.


But my cousin is white and she has two children with a black man.


The only reason she doesn't regret it is because she has those two kids.
i know two couples like that! very happy couples!
Yes and Yes. Pink Hippo has dated a few different species in her time.
Yes,one of my best friends is white %26amp; is dating a black chick ( I know her so we all kool)
yes, quite a few actually. I can think of 5 right now,





i dated a native american/white mix before
yes I have a neighbor couple he is white she is black
yes
yes
My parents?





I haven't been in one, no.
yep.
I'm Italian and I have gone out with white girls....does that count?

philosophy

What is the most common reason couples break up?

If its a Heterosexual Couple, they tend to break up due to irreconsilable DIFFERENCES.





It its a Homosexual couple, they break up due to irreconsiable SIMILARITIES.What is the most common reason couples break up?
Hi,,, the last and most important reason i split with my ex was that ,,, after the baby was born,,, ,she didnt sleep with me for 2 years,,and..........


When i found someone who would,,, she got mad for some reason........Gee,imagine that???? lol sad but true.....





good luckWhat is the most common reason couples break up?
These days if you want to have a long term relationship you better be rich and beautiful and don't cheat.
Booooorrrreeedom...and money problems
Sexual incompatibility.
money
money, sex and infidelity.
Money. It gets to be a strain on them. If one loses there job, give them time to find another one. Also one can't get pregant. This makes it hard for the woman as well as men. Communication. you have to be able to talk to each other and tell your feelings about every thing. Can't be one sided .Keep things alive no matter how long you are together. Pem
miscommunication, money, sex issues
CHRONIC CONFLICT.....BOREDOM ....REALIZING THEIR UNION WAS A POOR CHOICE AT BEST......
INFIDELITY
Different interest, cheating you name it, there is always a reason.
It is control. Everyone wants to control each other be it their money or just their life's.





If both would respect each other and let them be them self and not try to control each other there would be no problems.





It is best to live together and keep all your money in your account where you and only you have control over it. If you are a little late from work what is the big deal? It is your life and you should not be controlled. Where did he or her get the right to tell someone they have to be home at a set time after work? If I like to hold the door open and let in flies then that is my way of life and if someone else don't like it you should never have thought you could control or change me to start with.





Mind your own business is the key. Your partner has every right you do so stop trying to control their business.





They made it all these years without your control so what makes someone think they need controlled now?
lack of communication %26amp; too much dependence on eachother.
money money money, and they don't know what they're doing
non tolerance
lack of trust, interest, support, $$, or good Satisfying sex
When they start dating, they're both sweet and modest. But then after a while of being together u start to see the truth. And then eventually couples find too many differences between them, so they just end it.
infidelity
Selfishness. A lot of times people get into a relationship with their own desires and agendas, things are great when they are accomodated to but as soon as they feel like they not getting what they want they'll split to find the next person who they think can fulfill all their desires.





If we treated relationships to where both partners were in it for the sake of other person, people would stay together, because they wouldn't be so focused on what they want and all their stupid expectations, rather their concern would be for the other partner and serving their best interest. This is a idealistic thought, that doesn't happen too much, but I think the main contribruting factor in break ups is when the one persons considers their own needs greater then those of their partners
disagreements in raising children
Top 3: Jealousy, lies, or simply grown apart.
1-money


2-jealousy


3-cheating


4-lieing


5-stealing


need i say more...............
Cheating.money,jealousy and other ppl just get tired of the other person.
not doing it right
money inlaws
Let me repeat...$$$MONEY$$$ and coming in a close second is, SLEFISHNESS. Every other ';reason'; is just an appendage of these two. Infidelity stems from selfishness as does much sexual dissatisfaction. A relationship requires the two parties to be SELFLESS in order to make it work.
Everyone has their reasons i guess, there are soo many reasons why couples break up that its impossible to answer this question - Misunderstandings, bad communication, getting tired of your partner, peer pressure (caring what others think), personal problems (again comes down to bad communication) - but ultimately I guess couples break up because 'it wasn't the right person' - and when it is the 'right' person any problem can be worked out :)
inequity in sexual desires
money.
$$$

How do you feel about interacial couples and biracial kids?

like what your personal opinion on the issue because even though slavery was abolished, racism is still at large.How do you feel about interacial couples and biracial kids?
I don't have any problem with interracial couples, the color of the skin really doesn麓t matterHow do you feel about interacial couples and biracial kids?
i feel that they're just people. i happen to be mixed-race, and my friends all think it's the coolest thing in the world.
I'm a white guy and only date sistahs,so go figure(-;





Let's not forget that racism is not only between whites and blacks.
I don't have a problem with interracial dating and bi-racial kids. I was married to a black man (i'm white), though it ended in divorce, I don't hold it against other black guys in the future. My sister is engaged to a black man now and I look forward to however many bi-racials kids she decides to bring into this world.
gross! in my society in Arizona, we shun from these type of relationship, and people. not right! we throw them out.
I love it, they make beautiful kids. I am mixed myself with black and white and my youngest daughter's father is white. I don't care what the next person feels about me or my family.
I ENCOURAGE INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THE MORE MIXED THIS WORLD IS, THE SOOER RACISM WILL DIE. you can't hate something that your made of, because then you will only hate yourself.
If a couple is together and care for one another and have kids that they treat the same way, then WHO CARES?





PS - Mixed children are beautiful!
My personal opinion is that if 2 people in this world find each other and fall in love that race doesn't matter. And that all children are beautiful.

Christians. Do you think infertile couples should divorce?

Many Christians use the argument against homosexuality that God intended the sacrament of marriage to be a means of reproducing offspring. Obviously a gay marriage could not fulfill this.


However, if a hetrosexual couple marry and find that they are infertile, is this an abomination against God if they stay together as they will not reproduce either?Christians. Do you think infertile couples should divorce?
No. It is perfectly OK to remain married just because the couple is unable to have children. Maybe it is God's plan to put the couple together to adopt a child already here and raise the child as their own.Christians. Do you think infertile couples should divorce?
I thought Christians didn't do divorce - 'What god has joined together let no man put asunder' etc and all that jazz.
No, no, no. There are so many other options. All of which can be equally glorifying to God. There are so many unwanted children on this planet who need loving homes. Be open to what God has in store for you. He might be using the infertility to bring a child into your life through other means because that is how He plans to use you to fulfill His purposes.
I think Christians that argue for or against hetrosexual marriages with the excuse of producing offspring is wrong. I am a Christian and although I am against the idea of gay relationships, I still believe that, that is the persons choice. I don't judge people by the decisions that they make. I don't believe God intended men to be with men or women to be with women. But I am not God so therefore I can't go around telling people what is right or wrong. Marriage is about finding someone who makes you happy. I have been married for ten years and although we have five children, besides the last one none of the others came from sitting down deciding we want a child. It came from both of us expressing our love for one another in a way that God intended, SEX. If a couple can not produce offspring adopt. Not being able to have children should not change how much the other loves the other. And that goes for both straight couples and gay couples.
No I don't believe a couple should divorce for that reason (or for any reason except abuse for that matter), because I believe that GOD can make what is infertile fertile.





The gay marriage thing on the otherhand is a different story.
No, that is absolutely not a reason to divorce your spouse. There are so many other options out there. You take your spouse for better or for worse. With the good and the bad. Infertility is just a bump in the road that will eventually be overcome by. You would be surprised at how common infertility is now. But marriage is a sacred bond between two people that love each other. You do not part just b/c you are not able to reproduce. That would be devastating to whom the infertile partner is. God always finds a way for infertile couples.
Get lost, what's it got to do with you? Anyway, there's too many children in the world as it is! What's a god got to do with it?
Of course not, contrary to what most posters on this site say--The union represents Jesus and His church, His bride.


Hypocrites say ''do not stay together just for the children'' then they say 'the children should always come first'' RUBBISH--


Listen, when the man truely treats his wife with loving respect and she treats him the same way, the children will be happy and secure.


The marrige is about the wedded couple, kids or no kids.
No, they could adopt or try infertilization, I think India is alot cheaper with a better success rate then here.
No, not at all. In Luke 2:36-38 it talks about an old prophetess who ultimately was a widow, but was married for 7 years, and there is no mention of her having children. Granted, maybe she did but there is no mention of children. She was noted as being very devout to the Lord...


Peter, Jesus' disciple was married (Jesus healed his mother in law), but the Bible makes NO mention of him having children...





The Bible says that children are a gift and an inheritance of the Lord... but that doesn't mean that if you naturally can't give birth you are somehow bad or defective. God also states, ';I hate divorce';. I honestly don't know where else He has used such strong language about his ';feelings'; on a given topic...


Also, just like non Jewish Christians are ';grafted in'; to the family of God through Jesus-we're adopted, likewise, adopting children in need can be the answer for couples who naturally can't have their own... or, even if a couple can have children, adoption is often a choice that couples will think about and some will do...


It's a very personal choice whatever you decide...








Marriage is not solely to procreate. That is a part for SOME couples, but ultimately, marriage is meant to symbolise God's relationship with his people. There is physical intimacy, which we're commanded to participate in so we don't get tempted... there is the emotional fulfillment... marriage in it's intended form is a beautiful, wonderful thing, children are not going to always be a part of the picture and that is ok.
This is too weird a question to even contemplate an answer other than no of course not.





I believe marriage is for love not for reproduction Hence I believe that gay marriage is qualifies as well
Heck no! Just think of all that free time you'd have to practice reproducing. If all that practice gets boring, then you can babysit for your friends who wish they had a little free time to practice reproducing.
This question, and the fact that you believe this, is an abomination aginst God, not two people who love each other.
No

Are there any happily married couples?

If so what is the secret and can you give some adviseAre there any happily married couples?
biggest advise is make sure you remain friends and work at remaining lovers it is never easy but worth the effortAre there any happily married couples?
Always willing to give advice. One secret of happy marriage is communication: not the kind that says I will talk you listen - two way conversation. No secrets from each other, money or otherwise. Attempt to agree on everything, but if not agree to disagree. Before having children discuss child rearing procedures - everything must be clear on that point. Have no jealousy, trust each other 100%. Be willing to forgive - do it first whether you are right or not. Finally sex - be open and willing to try new things.
My parents are very happy couples, even my grandparents. I think the key is that you just have to be able to be yourself around each other, and if the other one doesn't accept it, the person isn't right for you. It might be hard when you first get married to get used to it and all, but after a few years, if you feel uncomfortable, it won't work out. For example, if there's something you feel like you can only do AFTER your husband leaves to work or wherever, then i might not be right. My parents and grandparents have nothing to hide, so they're just hapy together, and I KNOW for a fact thy will never get a divorce :)
I am happily married. I have a husband that I love and trust. He isn't the best at showing his feelings with romantic gestures, but we both know that he loves me, almost as much as our babies. Just keep in mind that every day is not perfect. You argue, but you get over it. I am usually over it in an hour or less. The important thing is don't say hurtful things that you'll regret. And don't believe in the movies, those people don't have the stress of kids, or bills influencing their lives. You don't need sex daily, or flowers or fancy things to have a happy marriage. And if it is an unhappy marriage, see what the both of you can do to improve it together. And I have hope that when the kids are all gone, our lives together will be much simpler and less stressful.
I am very happily married.





Secrets aren't secrets, just common sense. PUt your spouse first always. Chances are, he will naturally want to follow suit. My husband does this. I'll do nice things for him, he'll want to do them back.





Communicate. If there is a problem, talk about it. Don't yell and scream and cry or accuse. Be calm.





Keep the spark there. Try new sex things, surprise him.





If you think the realtionship is goign under, take control. Talk. I have said to my husband before, ';We've been so happy before, let's get back there.'; And we work on it and we are.
I am happily married! My parents are happily married and my grandparents are happily married.





Here's the advice my parents gave me when I got married: DATE your spouse! Just because you get married doesn't mean you stop dating. You still need to flirt and romance each other. Love only diminishes when you stop giving it. Love is a choice!





So my husband and I have a weekly date night. Every Friday night is just for us. Even if it's just a short date after the kids are in bed- we make sure to block time out for just the two of us every week to reconnect. It's the best advice I've ever heard. If you want something to last forever- you treat it differently- you make it your #1 priority. :)
im happily married! and have been for 6 and half years





there is no secret, you need to be compatible, love each other, be tolerant, give and take and have good communication and trust,





be prepared to work at it at times too. like every relationship, marriages change, they have ups and downs etc but as long as you dont give up at the first hurdle you will come out stronger!
im happily married each day i gain another day in my marriage together.the secret is communication,unconditional love,trust all the way,sacrifice,and two people actually wanting to be together forever and not for just kids,benefits,or cause they feel they have to be there.
Yes my husband and I happily married.He was my HS sweetheart i met him when I was 16 we married when i was 20 I'm now 44 it will be 25 yrs this Oct 6 . We have 3 kids. I find the secret to a happy marriage is Communication and trust. Yes we have had our ups and downs it wasn't always peaches and cream. But it was something we want so we worked hard at it.
We are.


It's the second time for each of us, his first was 16 yrs, mine was 24.





The biggest thing we both learned is this:


If there's an issue, DEAL with it immediately. Never ';assume'; the other knows what's bothering you, just bring it up, deal with it, compromise if necessary, then move on.





My ex would harbor resentment, letting issues fester in silence, and then completely blow over trivial stupid things. That will never happen with us!





Also, we laugh...a LOT! We crack jokes constantly, and find fun everywhere, even at Dollar Tree!
first answerer: im 28 and happily married. I have been married for 11 months and the key to any relationship has got to be to: love,listen,talk, trust and respect. in my opinion if there is none of these then theres no relationship
my husband and i are happily married. we have been married for almost 3 years. our relationship is not perfect though. you have to learn to work through the tough times together. plus, having God as the center of our marriage makes all the difference!
The secret was getting him to cut his mother out OUR life. There could only be one woman in his life, and that's me! I mean I wouldn't have minded her being around... but she just got to jealous over our relationship. And she always had to have his attention. It was pathetic!
Yes defiantly!!!


I don't think there is any BIG secret, just a bit of give n take and patience.


you must have been totally besotted at some point, try and work out whats changed??


good luck im sure you can revive the magic, x
Yes, my husband and I are happily married. The secret is communication and a balance of togetherness and independent activity.
My husband and I have been married for 241/2 years and the advice we can give you is to always talk through things, trust and be honest with each other.It seams to be working for us.Good Luck....
Communication, respect, love, trust, friendship.
When you do find the answer, feel free to let me. I thought I was the only one asking this question!!!
I'm not married, but the only happily married couples that I know are over 55.
sure- going on 35 years. My daughter is also happily married going on 4 years
I only know of one true happily married couple. I am happily single!
One here.


Consider each other, always.
never met one

My school bans gay & lesbian couples at the formal, should i protest?

In not gay or lesbian but my best friend is and we both think its wrong.


About 5 of my other friends are bi/gay/lesbian.


Me and my friends have gone to see office staff and they stopped us from seeing the princaple..


My parents agree with the school!! :(


Does anyone else believe this is wrong?My school bans gay %26amp; lesbian couples at the formal, should i protest?
It really depends on the type of school.





Legally speaking, if this is a public school, the school shouldn't be allowed to barr same-sex couples from going to the formal and you guys should fight this because it's outrageous.





If you go to a private school, they have the legal right to do as they please. :-/





Stage a protest. Perhaps your gay friends can go with lesbians and switch partners at the dance as a form of protest. If the school administration pulls a scene it would put the school in the spot light with the media, and given the state of the gay rights movement, your school wouldn't come out in a great light.My school bans gay %26amp; lesbian couples at the formal, should i protest?
Ok I hate to say this, but is your girlfriend from another school? If not both go stag, yes you'll won't get the couples discount but you guys can still go and enjoy each other! If she doesn't find a single guy friend (preferably a guy that's in your situation) then you both can invite the other person and just swap partners once you give your tickets at the door! You'll even get the couples discount this way!





There are ways to work around these things! I know its sucks, but you can still go and have a great time and that's all that matters!





EDIT:


Then have fun going ';stag!'; ;-)


Enjoy yourselves and don't forget to take tons and tons of pics!
I think the school shouldn't be making any judgement with regards to sexual orientation. Standard school policy is to blanket disallow anything which is not to do with education so to be fair and literal to their own rules they should also ban straight couples from the formal.





I would love to see a school put this issue to student vote.
There is an absolutely marvellous book about it by a guy called Aaron Fricke. It's called ';Reflections of a Rock Lobster and was published in 1981 by Alyson Publications in Boston, Mass.


The ISBN is 0 932870 09 0


I'll bet you can get it cheaply on Abebooks or Alibris or one of the many other book selling web sites.





And a large part of the story is how he won the battle to be allowed to take his gay partner to the school prom.
Whoah, serious?


Thats disgusting, especially in Australia. I would never think that something like that would happen here.


They can't ban someone from going to the formal because of their sexual orientation, especially in a public school. Hell, doesn't your school have other things to worry about?
Which state is this in? If it's a public school it would be illegal under the Equal Opportunities Act. You could make a stand by not going and letting the school admin and local paper and television station know about your opposition. You could even try to get on Sunrise...they'd like that story.
This is total discrimination and it's against the law. Go to a newspaper and see what kind of publicity you can drum up and maybe threatened with legal action, they'll change their minds quick smart!
Has your school looked at the calender? It's 2009 for heaven's sake.





Sorry bigotry is still alive and well in your school...





You don't happen to go be going to school in the 1950's do you?
In Australia most anti-gay discrimination is banned, so they might even be breaking the law. I think you could be quite successful if you got the media involved.
you should DEFINITELY protest! I would do anything I can to get this overturned. You can also talk to people like the ACLU and see if legal action couldn't be taken!
I went to a catholic school in western australia and we were even allowed same sex partners.................








hmmm! Thats wrong hun. What state are u in?


I DEF think you shud protest. Get the news involved lol
I personally think that's very wrong. I think you should stage a protest, a peaceful one at least
It is absolutely wrong - If you can't make your protest heard why don't you contact the press - I'm sure they will get a response.
yes thats very wrong. discrimination is not a good thing especially in schools. there's enough of that in the real world.